Things I want my daughter to know


When I was a young 21 years old, and 5 months pregnant with my first daughter, I sat down and wrote her a long list of things I wanted her to know. In the spirit of International Women’s Day, I thought I would share it!

1. Don’t get upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction

2. Don’t take anything personally

3. Never lie to save your own arse

4. Material things will never give you long term happiness

5. Learn the difference between having sex with someone you love, and fucking someone you don’t. Do a lot of both, for your own enjoyment.

6. People can only use you with you permission. You have that power.

7. Don’t build walls around your heart, let people love you

8. The first time your heart breaks will be one of the most painful experiences of your life, but it will pass

9. Never regret anything

10. Family is everything

11. Always say “I love you” first

12. Honour your body

13. Learn to love exercise

14. Don’t eat junk food

15. Always drink 2L of water a day

16. Always wear suncream

17. Appreciate fine food, but never let food consume you. Food is fuel

18. Fear is merely a defence mechanism

19. Take compliments graciously

20. Travel the world, but don’t be a tourist

21. Never stop learning new things

22. Read something every day

23. Always keep a list of short and long term goals

24. Always have money in your savings account

25. Donate your time, not money, to charity

26. You cannot control what other people do, but you can control how it effects you

27. Don’t waste your time with negative people who drain your energy

28. Keep a dreamcatcher in your room

29. People may forget what you said, or what you did – but that will never forget how you made them feel

30. Be present with people

31. Have a firm handshake and look people in the eye when you’re introduced to them

32. Make an effort to remember names

33. Learn to cook

34. If you’re angry, write your feelings down before you voice them

35. It’s okay to not be okay

36. Smile at strangers

37. Don’t be too hard on people, you never know what demons they’re facing

38. Its okay to disagree with others, but you need to respect their opinions also

39. Always trust your gut

40. Don’t play mind games with boys

41. Be careful of what you put on social media

42. If you think something won’t make your Dad proud, don’t do it

43. Never litter, respect the environment

44. Learn to swim

45. If you want something, ask for it. Always say please

46. Thank people all of the time

47. Don’t be too stubborn to say sorry first

48. Never apologise for being yourself

49. Always be 5 minutes early. If you’re going to be late, call ahead

50. Don’t make excuses, for yourself or for others

51. Make your bed every morning

52. Never have clutter

53. Handwrite letters

54. Live with someone before you marry them (have sex with them too)

55. Whether you believe you can or believe you cannot – you’re right

56. Wash whites, blacks and colours seperate

57. Write To-Do lists

58. Don’t take interest in celebrity gossip

59. Learn to drive a manual car

60. Know how to change a tire

61. Don’t pull the rude finger in photos

62. Be grateful – write down what you’re grateful for

63. Know how to read a map

64. Cut your hair however you want – it will always grow back

65. Don’t pluck your eyebrows

66. Wax, dont shave

67. Wear cotton underwear day to day

68. Sometimes wear sexy lingerie for your eyes only

69. Be comfortable in your own presence

70. Travel alone

71. Keep a journal

72. Take photos of everything

73. Learn to play an instrument

74. Learn languages

Don’t ask why it stopped at 74, it just did! But these are a few things that I hope Charlie remembers throughout her life. Do you have any you would like to add? Let me know! Until next time xx

1 Comment

  1. Belinda

    OMG. This is amazing. Proving once again that you are the most incredible mother. Will you adopt me??

    08 . 03 . 2017

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