Our “Love Story” [Part Two]
Looking back on the first few years of our relationship, we had it pretty good.
We spent almost every night together between our two houses, and loved to spend time with each other. Nick went to Thailand at the end of the year for 2 weeks, and before he came home I was already off on my 6 week trip to the US. The day I dropped Nick off at the airport I was a total wreck knowing that I wasn’t going to see him for 2 months.
Our time apart was a bit of a blur, I was on a Contiki trip with my best friend so I had a lot going on to keep me preoccupied, and Nick carried on with every day life at home. We both knew that those two months were going to be make or break for our relationship, and fortunately for us we reunited stronger than ever. I knew by now that Nick was “the one”, and that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else.
We moved in together a few months after I got back from my trip, and this is when our relationship went through its first major changes. We both took a little time to adjust to being in each other’s pockets all of the time, but we settled fairly quickly and were back to enjoying each others company.
In the relatively short time Nick and I have been together, we’ve been through a LOT! 7 different houses, multiple cars, a dog, a cat, multiple job changes, two mortgages, 18 months of pregnancy and two babies. We’ve never really had time to relax before another life changing event was happening and we were dealing with all the stress that comes with that.
Nick and I are both very stubborn people, we’re quick to anger and we can get very short with each other. Stress and change has made a huge impact on our relationship in the past. A few months after Charlie was born we were both still trying to adjust and come to terms with our new way of life with a newborn. I was dealing with bad anxiety and breastfeeding issues, and I wasn’t that great to be around. Nick was avoiding me and I was left feeling abandoned with a new baby and disappointed with what I thought would be the happiest time of our life. As time went on, we couldn’t stand to be around each other, and argued constantly. It was really, really rough. So we decided to take a break and Nick moved back into our apartment with a friend who was renting it. There was a stage when we both thought it was over between us. We were giving it almost everything we had and we couldn’t work it out.
However something just wasn’t sitting right in my gut and I knew I owed it to our baby girl to give it one last shot, so Nick and I decided to give it one last chance. It took a lot of time and conversation to slowly build the respect between us again. We began to spend time together with and without Charlie, and even went to couples therapy for a few months. At the time I was embarrassed to tell anyone, but now I’m just so proud of the effort that we put in! Over those couple of months we worked every single second of every single day on our relationship. It was our number one priority, and thankfully, the hard work paid off.
The first year with a baby was a difficult one for us, and our relationship changed a lot. It’s changed once again now that we’ve added a second baby to the family, but we had the skills to deal with it a lot better this time around.
This relationship has not always come easily. I often see people comment on our photos “goals” or have people telling me that our family is so perfect. Whilst we undoubtedly love each other so very much, we’re constantly putting in the effort to make this work. It’s taken a lot for us to get to this point.
I look up at Nick sitting across from me on the couch as I write this, and I know that we’re both exactly where we’re meant to be. We’re complete opposites and we butt heads constantly, but when we’re working well we balance each other out so harmoniously. I’m practical and responsible, Nick is fun and carefree. I’m a big dreamer, and Nick is realistic. When I’m getting anxious over something little, Nick is the one who puts things into perspective for me. And when Nick is losing his cool, I’m there calming him down.
Nick is the love of my life, my best friend, and I’m so blessed to have him as the Father of our two beautiful children. He pisses me off, stirs me up, makes me laugh and I feel at home within his arms.
He’s just looked up to me now and said “I hope you know that you’re very loved” and the beautiful thing is – I really, really do.