New Year, New Me… right?
HOW TO DITCH THE “RESOLUTIONS” AND CHOOSE A WORD TO GUIDE YOUR YEAR WITH INTENTION
It’s that time of the year isn’t it? As a New Year begins, the expectations are high. I always find that at the start of a new time period (new years, new months, heck even new weeks!) I begin to put a lot of pressure on myself to set goals. There’s something about a fresh beginning and endless opportunities that makes me feel so motivated. However, I think what we all forget to realise is that as the New Year begins, we are not that much different between 31 December and 1 January.
In fact, are we any different at all?
Most of us wake up with a bit of a sore head from the previous nights celebrations, or we’re gearing up for a big party on New Years Day. I know that more often than not I’m exhausted from the past month of Christmas celebrations, and a lot of the time I start the new year in a bit of a slump.
It is easy to get discouraged when the first week of January slips by and you’ve still not managed to “eat healthy”, “drink more water” or “join a gym”. Before you know it, your New Years Resolutions are chucked in the pile with the last 10 years before that, and you’re feeling pretty disappointed with yourself. Believe me, I’ve been there.
In my experience, setting New Years Resolutions just doesn’t work. I find that people are hasty to decide on resolutions, and often pick something just because it seems like the right thing to do, they may start out strong and with the best of intentions, but tend to lose motivation quickly when instant results aren’t seen.
At the start of 2017, I came across an episode by The Purposeful Home Podcast, in which they spoke about the notion of having a word (or phrase) to guide you through your goals, decisions and actions for the year. It really struck a chord with me as I knew instantly what my phrase would be, and that was “to be a conscious consumer”. In 2017, that phrase stuck with me through every change, decision and hurdle that I came across. It applied to every aspect of my life; from the relationships that I kept and let go of, to the beauty products that I bought. Upon reflection of the last year, I feel like I truly accomplished what I intended to do. “Consume consciously” was a mantra for me throughout the year, and whilst I still set myself specific goals that I wanted to achieve, that phrase guided me day to day and led me on the right path.
This year, I’ve only just come up with the phrase that sits right with me, and that is “Intentional Time”. I’ve been playing around with words such as “productive”, “efficient” and “strive” but they all felt too driven for what I wanted to get out of 2018. My aim for this year is not to DO the most, but to be intentional with the time I have. To make time for building my business, playing with the kids, tending to the housework AND make time for watching TV, scrolling my phone, and reading a book. In 2017 I tried to do all of the things, all of the time, which of course meant I constantly felt like I wasn’t doing anything at all. This year, time management is key.
But enough about me, this year I encourage YOU to choose a word or phrase to guide you. There are many different ways you can do this, but you might like to try sitting with a cuppa and a pen and paper, and writing down what you want to achieve and more importantly how you want to FEEL in 2018. Include everything and anything that comes to mind, no matter how irrelevant it may seem. Eventually, you’ll start to see a pattern begin to emerge, or a few words might start to come to mind. Try not to think too much about what you SHOULD be doing, and let the word or phrase come to you yourself. I’d love to hear from you with what you’ve chosen! If this isn’t working for you, maybe try a vision board, or talking it over with your partner or a friend. If you’re still stuck, send me a DM on Instagram and I’d be more than happy to give you a hand!
I hope you had a wonderful New Year celebration, and I wish you all the love and happiness for 2018!
Cover photo: Belinda Rae Photography